Christian Service for the Introvert

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(See also “Fellowship for the Christian Introvert.”)

The typical image of “Christian service” is of someone preaching to a crowd, teaching Sunday school, or serving meals in a food pantry. In other words, someone sharing the love of Christ with a good-sized group of people and radiating high energy throughout.

Which makes it tough on those of us who want to be faithful Christian servants, but freeze up talking to groups and find it draining to socialize for long.

The Bible says God created us all for good works He planned in advance (Ephesians 2:10), so every believer is made for Christian service. What we sometimes forget is that God creates each of us uniquely and doesn’t expect the exact same form of service from every  individual. To paraphrase Paul’s analogy on the human body and the body of Christ: if the whole congregation was made up of Sunday school teachers, who would clean the church restrooms? And if the whole congregation was made up of food-pantry workers, who would keep the church website up to date?

If you’re a Christian introvert who can’t see yourself dealing with groups of strangers and semi-strangers on any regular basis, be assured God isn’t disappointed in you. In fact, He created you with just the temperament you have so you could serve the Body and the world in your own ideal ways.

Here are some areas of Christian service that typically suit introverts. Consider which ones appeal to your natural passions: then ask God, your church staff, and discerning Christian friends to recommend appropriate needs you can fill.

Writing

  • Could your church’s website use a weekly blog? Or help with a blog/newsletter/website/emailing that’s being irregularly produced and poorly written? Or even a full-length book for fundraising sales?
  • Are there shut-ins, or people on the church’s prayer list, who’d appreciate regular (perhaps handwritten) notes of encouragement?
  • Can you send spontaneous notes to your pastor/church staff? Often it’s the people with the full-time work of serving fellow believers, who get taken for granted and their struggles ignored.
  • Does your church or denomination have a “pen pal” program where you can regularly write to missionaries, or other Christian workers, or ordinary Christians living in largely unchurched regions?

Art

Could you contribute:

  • paintings or a mural to decorate your church’s welcome center;
  • graphic design or calligraphy to church publications;
  • craft projects to sell at a church fair or fundraiser?

Helps

Many introverts find special joy in the sort of background service unfairly labeled “dirty work”:

  • Cleaning up after the crowds have left
  • Delivering meals to shut-ins, or just dropping in to visit (often, the introvert who “hates crowds” can talk for hours with a couple of friends–or with one lonely individual)
  • Landscaping or gardening
  • Construction or repair work

Prayer

Of course every believer should pray for the Church and for others’ needs; but some Christians are specially gifted for the sort of lengthy private prayers that move mountains. Famous pioneer missionary William Carey credited much of his success to the fervent prayer support of his home-bound sister in England.

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And after you’ve found your place of service, consider praying that God will send you a few fellow introverts to team with. If they were feeling discouraged about not being suited for large-group-style Christian service, you can render additional service by encouraging them through example!

 

 

Fellowship for the Christian Introvert

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You may be a Christian introvert if:

  • you always look for a seat with elbow room
  • you want to crawl under the pew when the pastor tells the congregation to greet each other
  • you’d rather face a den of hungry lions than a friendly hug from a casual acquaintance
  • in every new Sunday school class, you consider spending the “introductions and mixer questions” part in the restroom

It’s humorous to a point. That point being where you hardly hear the program because you’re sulking over how extroverts and cheerful types run the world and don’t care about your feelings. Or where an introvert decides to quietly slink away from church because they “can’t stand all this touchy-feely stuff.” (1 Corinthians 8 on “weaker brothers,” anyone?) Or where a pastor can feel ashamed of himself, and convinced God is disappointed in him, because he likes spending time alone.

Still, it’s not good for even introverts to be alone all the time. And most of us love our neighbors as much as anyone–what we can’t stand is having our senses assaulted with chatter and crowding at every turn.

So here’s my advice to fellow introverts:

Know That God Loves You as You Are

As Linus said in the old Peanuts strip when his sister presented him with a list of habits she wanted him to change, “These aren’t faults. These are character traits!” Sometimes it’s hard to tell the difference, especially in a fallen world overloaded with “I do it because it works for me” attitudes. Still, I state with confidence that God made some of us to be introverts: quiet and thoughtful types who come up with our best ideas during time alone. In many ways, our introversion frees us to develop more original ideas than our crowd-loving peers.

To paraphrase Blaise Pascal, this world is a better place because of people who know how to make good use of time spent quietly in their rooms. Don’t feel you must accept invitations to large gatherings because “everyone’s going.” Don’t apologize if you’re first to leave the party because you’ve had enough stimulation for one night. Be assured God isn’t ashamed of you–and you shouldn’t be, either.

Think Quality, Not Quantity

Who cares about being the most popular person in church? Two or three trustworthy friends will do just fine, thank you. Introverts prefer getting to know a few people, at deeper levels–knowing whom they can trust with their secrets and struggles.

A few tips on locating good prospects for “quality-based” friendships:

  • Join a small group–and consider a really small group, about eight people.
  • When you meet someone you’d like to get to know better, invite her to share a cup with you at a quiet coffee shop.
  • Offer to help someone clean up their yard, paint their spare room, or work on another activity that allows for easy one-on-one conversation.
  • Look for a spiritual mentor (your pastor or small-group leader may have recommendations).

 

Remember You’re Never Really “Alone”

Of course, one disadvantage of introversion is that sometimes we feel we can’t make friends at all. If you’re feeling particularly lonely, have a prayerful talk with the One True Friend Who never leaves you. Tell Him just how miserable you feel living with this temperament, just how hard you find it being an introvert in an extrovert-oriented world.

Then be still and listen for His response. Open yourself to receive His comfort and His reassurance that He makes everyone–and every personality–for a purpose.

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